Thursday, September 25, 2008
I guess my mom is an equal opportunity psycho
I talked to my sister about my most recent blowup with my mom. She then told me about how she does similar crap regarding her husband. She’s told my sister things like, “You need to do this if he ever leaves you,” or “I don’t like how he [insert normal behavior here],” and even, “You can’t trust men.” There’s being protective of your daughters and the natural tendency to think that no one is good enough for your kids, but come on. Constant warnings about your spouse is more than just annoying. We’ve both come to the conclusion that our mom has no idea what a normal, loving relationship is.
It’s comforting to know that your sister is on your side. She was telling me about the time my mom and I both went to visit her in her new Texas home. Apparently my mom didn’t want me to bring Areli with me. She had privately told my sister that she was disappointed because she was hoping for more “family time” together. My sister, always more outspoken than me, plainly told her, “She IS family mom.” She told me she was rewarded with a glare from my mom, but it shut her up. Good for you sis! You rock.
To quote my sister, “My husband and I have given up trying to understand her and we’ve just labeled her as psycho. It makes it easier to deal with the things she comes up with. “ My sentiments exactly. My sweety could never understand this bizarre family dynamic with my mom, but she understands my relationship with her a lot better now. She was finally able to see firsthand that my mom really is kind of psycho, so we just have to ignore it when we can.