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The worst part is when you find yourself doing what your mom did, even though you hated it as a child. My mom was the biggest nagger, and I seem to be following her down that path too. I want to kick myself sometimes!
*is also an uncertain, timid sheep*
I could have written that entry. I’m an Aries and everything. lol
Yes, and don’t tell your child (or grandchild) they are fat. If you want them to be healthy then teach them how.
This is a major pet peeve of mine. Parents (not my own, but others I see). Don’t even get me started.
I was exactly like that with my father. Nothing I did was ever good enough and he was very strict… Yet another good reason not to have kids.
Liane, we can start our own herd and conduct therapy sessions amongst ourselves.
Robin, very true. I’ve never been overweight, but I do have dense, heavy bones (seriously, I have a hard time floating in a pool). Whenever the actual weight number would come up in conversation, my mom would usually mention “When I was your age, I was [enter significantly smaller number].” Mom, I don’t care. You’re shorter than me, so shut up.
J, if you were my mom (which is impossible because you’re not that old and I’m not that young) I’d actually want to visit you more than once a year.
Erica, I can picture myself becoming a total nagger if I ever became a mom. Either that, or a total pushover like I am with the dogs. Either way, I’d hate be a parent. I’d see nothing but flaws in my behavior.
I had a “healthy fear” of my parents. I KNEW that I fucked up, there would be consequences. Do you know how HORRIBLE it was to NOT get THE SHIRT that would shape you into a fine, upstanding citizen of the world just because you accidentally told your brother to run down the hallway with a baseball bat and a pillow and that if he did so and jumped into the door, that it wouldn’t hurt? LOL Yeah, I’m permanently scarred because I never got THE SHIRT.
Seriously though, children need some structure and discipline in order to keep them from setting the house on fire, roasting the dog and never doing homework so they end up never learning anything and on welfare as an adult or somesuch...it is like you said, all in how the parents deliver the structure and discipline that makes a difference.
Oh, wow - you could have just described my life GDG (except I’m a Sagittarius, not an Aries). I agree with what you said, as parents, we have to be careful and mindful of HOW we mold our children’s minds.
Although it sucks what happened to us, it’s nice to know we are in good company.
wait..children need structure...hmm - maybe thats our problem 
actually… and i say this often…
teach your children respect. to respect others and very importantly to respect themselves. the best way to teach them this is by example.
all else will follow if you have geniune respect.
Amen! And yet so hard to follow at times. I grew up the same way, scared to frickin’ death of my mom. I really have to slap myself when I hear out of my mouth something she would have said. I have had to apologize to my son a few times. At least I can see it, and my internal editor is much faster than it was!
Fogspinner | 05.24.2007 | 10:07 AM